Sunday, 25 November 2018


What if 

we smile and act , Don't we meet success always ?

Smiling invigorates our  spirit tranquilizes mind,buoy ups heart and produce an ecstatic chord of euphony  in others soul.The innocent  and invaluable  smile of the kids is alluring us  to intoxicate us like the fragrance of the flowers and the evening breeze.
Wise people say those who don’t smile should never open a shop. It attracts others like magnet drawing iron  . Service with smile is a sweet mantra of service- orientated corporate firms.It is contagious and makes the atmosphere pleasant and delightful.

The best time we should smile is when we get up in the morning. We should look into the mirror and say to ourselves with a smile “ The day is going to be great”.  

If we smile whenever we meet our friends and relatives we spur on friendliness and fondness.
When we come upon  our friends or relatives  after a long time , we  exchange  pleasantries , we extend our right hand to shake (not Golden handshake ) and smile.
Some people use to hug them as a token of respect and regard. If we meet elders, we use to lie down flat to seek their blessings.In Japan when people meet others they bow their head  exhibiting their humility.

Say a louder NO with a big SMILE

 My colleague , in the office, a happy-to-go-shrewd guy is having the habit  always smiling when we are behind the counters servicing the customers. I use to look at him awestruck as he does not get provoked easily and always keep his cool and temperament . 

When we are working together at the counters I observe him as a good student taking a lesson from his teacher. His way of tackling the unreasonable ,unethical and illogical demands of the customers is exemplary .

With a smile he would be conversing with the clients in such a way to making reason out and  fathom why he is helpless. He would handle any situation with great aplomb and equanimity in a diplomatic and prudent way  so as to avoid any confrontation ,argument , dispute or disappointment .

Smile when the situation warrants.

We should not smile at strangers as they may misconstrue as mockery or they take as nincompoops. It is better we keep a restraint to smile always. Suppose if we go to any office for one or other transaction, we may come upon unknown persons. We can smile at them .They would also feel comfortable with us and extend a helping hand.
Thunbam varungal naguga - A Tamil proverb.
It is to mean that we should laugh when the mishap strikes us.   Nowadays Psychologists stress  that we should not curtail  the negative emotions as life has got its own ups and downs .We have to express our agony and anguish by wailing.

We are not robots.We take a pledge to fill the air with ecstasy utilizing the melodious music of smiling. We fill the atmosphere full of  hopefulness , harmony and joy with our grinning ear to ear.

When we entertain nefarious , wrong and negative thoughts we pour out a plastic or fake  smile . As such if we hold positive and right thoughts of optimism . hopefulness, and compassion our smile would be a beguiling and genuine matter.

Sumptuous smile secures success 

Youngsters want to connect  with others always by roaming in the  on-line world.  In the social media like Face-book ,Twitter and whatsApp they are active and use the  Smiley to express their emotions like happiness and sadness.
Always we make sure to flaunt our joy through smiling Smiley.

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Sunday, 18 November 2018

Shrink not children's space

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"There are children everywhere but not childhood “ , a saying I  come upon reading an article , and how real it is. In our neighborhood there is a family, the only male member of it  has gone abroad and his wife is a teacher in a nearby school.They have got two daughters aged 7 and 5. Her sister a college professor  is residing adjacent to our place along with her husband , a businessman and daughter 3 years old.

Since all go to their work and the granny takes care of the kids when they return from the school in the evening.They take rest or play after taking milk and snacks. They may sometimes do the homework or spend time enjoying a cartoon on the TV.

They always need to play and fun is part of their growth. But the reality is that they don't get the space  and it results in many a psychological and emotional problem.

  Once Children's mother narrated an incident to me which  opened her eyes in respect of her concern for the children. 

One day  she took permission and returned home early. In her house, one room supposed to be a storeroom is kept locked always.When she asked about the children her mother   replied that they went out to play with other children in the garden. She wanted to check the mail from his hubby and She turned the key in the lock  and opened the door of the store room wherein a laptop was kept. 

To her astonishment she found her daughters and her sister's daughter sitting in the corner   looking  at the screen of the laptop   and the room was dark.Actually, the room was kept locked always but  her mother  opened it and forgot  to close it. When the children came in the room it was ajar they entered into the room and decided to spend some time with the laptop which their grandma did   not notice  and locked it without their knowledge.

Immediately their mother  shouted and asked the children  to shut down the laptop and come out of  the room. 

She asked me, “Uncle I feel very bad about this, and I don't know   how to solve it.” 

I have explained to her about the significance of  golden hours of children especially in the evening when they return from the school they should be taken care of nicely and they should be provided with  SPACE they require for their well being and growth physically and mentally.

I asked her”Why do you allow children to access laptop?’
She replied,” Out of necessity. I have instructed my elder daughter to learn the basics so that she can attend her father's  mails and sometime she would call him  through SKYPE in the event of an emergency. “

I said, “OK. But this is not the age to leave the kids to operate it independently without the supervision of an adult member. Like doublededged sword internet also to be treated with care otherwise we have to face unnecessary  problems"

.I continued," We cannot blame your mother, she would forget things  due to old age and not aware of the problems associated with laptop and Internet. Even they play games through it they become addictive and their academic progress is affected"

I  suggested, “you make out a password to open the Laptop and never disclose it to  your children till they attain a particular age they should not be allowed to handle laptop without your monitoring their activities. You can also tell your hubby to contact you over the phone if there is an emergency.See that the laptop is  kept not within the reach of the children. You can arrange tuition for them so that they spend time with purpose."

She has taken my advice and I hope she would go by it for the sake of their children.

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Thursday, 15 November 2018


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No of pages:  173

Published by: Self

Published on:  September 20th 2018

Genre: Non fiction Self help  Internet Digital security

1720184135 (ISBN13: 9781720184133)

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Author's links: Goodreads   Amazon           

My take 
An amazing and timely relevant book. The title has got my attention and I have requested the author for a copy of the book. I thank the author for having sent me the book in PDF form. As the title suggests the book deals with the eyes that are observing our digital journey when our eyes are glued to the smart phone or laptop screen.

WHEN we are active in the cyber realm, there are so many persons watching our activities and there is all the possibility of manipulation, abuse or misuse  by some of them. Our negligence and  overindulgence in the social media and Internet related platforms may lead us to mishaps or loss affecting us physically and mentally.

We have to develop  a critical thinking attitude which idea is highlighted in this book.Also, parents should take some precautionary measures so that their teen aged children don’t fall prey to their own mistakes and blunders by giving all the personal details.  

The All Seeing Digital Eyes by Neville J Kattakayam is a tremendous book for all netizens and others who want to learn about the digital arena.

Social media, Internet and the use of smart phones have become an essential and integrated part of our lives.

 They have become lifetime companion for our young people as well as others .On reading this book you fathom the nature and vulnerability  of the cyber world and you would be able to safeguard yourself from unwanted threats. Your reckless navigations on the online world should   not land you in any sort of trouble.  . 

The author has crafted an excellent resource for all netizens and the knowledge  he imparts would stay with you to prevent you from becoming victims to perpetrators of cyber world and ensure your digital wellbeing .

The author advises us to be careful and cautious about the ill effects that can be avoided if we act with care. He narrates   many dangers, pitfalls, and risks which we may encounter due to our surfing  sans prudence. 

Using a liberal dose of anecdotes, examples of real-life experiences that we can relate to, the author warns us to be aware of loss due to the wrong choices. We should become tech-savvy enough to have a safe online trajectory.

The book is written in first Person and the writing style is easy to follow. The technical jargon may see to be alien to readers but the language used is simple to make any layman understand what the author wants to tell.

The plan
The nuggets of knowledge would be useful to you in your personal life when you go through the virtual world.

There are three parts titles being 1. Technology stack 2 .Threats to you while the online and 3.Take control.

From the Internet, the book discusses all the subjects like Trolling, Doxing,Bullying hacking etc. The book covers DarkNet also .It warns about the Home Wi-Fi a sweet spot that cyber criminals could try to attack  targeting you.

There are tips for you and parents on various prevetive measures. The author has written this book with a idea to enlighten his daughter and hence the book may seem to target parents with teen age children and all should read this book to get awareness about  the internet and it's dangers.

Top 3 tips for safe online journey.

Create an Avatar -which represents the real you, but do not directly link up to you

If it is for free , then YOU are the Product

Explain to your children abut Stranger Danger and the dangers of radicalization early on .

There are spelling mistakes and the book needs some more editing . Language is good and it could be better.

There are totally  19 chapter

My favorite are
We are Data
Revenge porn
Your online persona

Overall this intresting and informative  book has come at this contemporary atmosphere   when there are so many issues,  problems and sufferings come into light owing to the lack of  proper knowledge of Internet and digital world .

A quick and must read by all who work on line and off line,  so as to make a safer and secure  journey in the cyber realm.

My score 4/5

Disclaimer. I have received a free PDF copy of the above book in exchange of my honest and unbiased review .I have not received any Monetary compensation for the same.

Neville J Kattakayam

Author photo taken from Good reads 

Sunday, 4 November 2018

Fun is playful

People, Children, Child, Happy, Kids Playing, Cute

If we treat our life as a game, there would be a lot of fun. If we observe children playing we can see them to have their own rules and regulations which  in no time they formulate. We  look at children playing with paper boats when it rains and when their boats sink in the water running in the street  they clap and laugh.

They fight for the same toy. Their playfulness astonish  us and they are mischievous enough to make us guffaw.Child cries for toys and man dies for rewards.

When we grow up we lose our original childhood mentality ,we miss the track and become serious about our life. Only a few of us are capable of taking their childish attitude even though they have reached a stage of adulthood.     

In our office ,there was a  staff member who got the inclination to crack jokes and we used to laugh along with him.When you play antics with  others you have to be careful about how far you can go as it may result in awkward situations and lead to unpleasant consequences if the persons at the recieving end don't take it sportive.

Some might say it is wrong to make fun of others as this may lead to misunderstanding and the person who is made fun of may feel hurt. Hence it is always better to be fun to a limited extent and at tolletance level. 

Let us call my buddy T who is able to create pranks to make others laugh and have a pleasant time.

In our office, we got an adding machine and there would be paper roll thrown here and there. Some wasted paper would be lying there.  T took one long  piece ,with a safety pin he tied it  to the   the back side of the pant  of the person without his knowledge who got engrossed in his work. It would  look like a tail of a monkey.   When he got up and walked we all noticed it and burst into laughter. He would walk like a king. Only after coming to see the paper roll attached to his backside he   tried to beat our T as he knew he was the person to indulge in such sort of antics. 

 We got an intercom service and our T called another staff. He told him he got a training programme at a distant place in the coming month. He changed his tone  and told him in an authoritative manner. The staff  believed it and called for the railway agent to book the ticket Later on we suggested him to check up with HR official and he came to know how he was fooled off.  

We used to have a dinner party now and then among ourselves on the occasion of any celebration. Usually, it would be our personal get together and it would be confined to our own members.

 Once our T arranged a party. We were not given the full details.

 Having assembled in the hall we were introduced to the new couple.  The couple, we meant the person who served us tea in the morning and evening  and his wife who got married recently.He prepared tea and coffee in his house and brought to the office. He was not an employee like us but he was associated with us for a long time and he became so close to be called a family member. He was a a nice person and we were all very much friendly with him. Actually, when he entered our office someone would be shouting "Hot water arrives" mocking at the quality of tea . With smiling face he would take it in jovial mood.

The party was arranged by our T and he offered us snacks and tea. We collected an amount and gave him a gift.He and his wife felt very happy. Their parents also came . A  few drops  of tears could be seen in his eyes as he was overwhelmed by our gesture of love and affection. 

T who could make fun of others has got a golden heart  to make others happy by sharing our joy .

Some might say that it is wrong to lose our seriousness in our lives and not to be playful but it is right to make fun of ourselves,our mistakes shortcomings and failures and move on.. These memories bring us joy and cheerfulness.

Not only we have to upgrade our fun quotient but also update it to sail through storms with easy and smooth  sailing as life has got it's own ups and downs.A little fun now and then here and there would give a great soothing effect in our otherwise demanding and stressful life. 

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