You are a living magnet , What you attract into life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts
Brian Tracy .
A single plant can not make a garden. Nobody can live all alone in an island building a fortress We are all social beings and our happiness success and peace depend on our relationship in the society . Our parents take all the efforts to mold us good citizens and we learn from our teachers friends ,relatives and the general public . Society is so conscious and alert about our growth .When we work for the sake of the society it pays back at equal proportion. Our relationship with others depend on so many aspects like our education, financial status and our influence in the society . We have to develop our social skills to make progress in our life. A little effort to change ourselves to the tune of the society we can make our life a pleasant journey. What we sow that only we can reap . In relationship also if we give love and get back the same .
Once I was playing with my per dog Rocky and we were spending our quality time in the evening. I was stroking ,caressing his face and neck of and suddenly he wailed and tried to bite me. Then I understood I touched a sensitive nerve in the neck which gave a pain to him. . The positive trigger has become a negative one.Similarly in real life we do some mistakes that turn the positive trigger into a negative one. To avoid them the following principles can be given weightage and develop knowledge on them.
1. 1 Fathom that everyone one is unique and everything happens for a reason or purpose.
VARIETY IS SPICE OF LIFE. In our life , myriad instances and happenings occur for which we cannot attribute any reason or purpose. We have to take it for granted that our duty is to meet all the social transactions In a reasonable smooth manner. This can be easy to say but a lot of patience and wisdom we have to develop to reach a greater level. In my life I have met so many persons I have to deal with strangers for one thing or other. It may be temporary or paramount or it may be small or big one. In the same way we have to interact with own friends ,acquaintances relatives and colleagues. Everybody is unique and we have to recognize the individuality. Giving due respect to individuality we have to maintain a balanced approach to avoid any friction and misunderstanding.
2. 2 Give many positive strokes and avoid negative ones.
Psychologists call our actions and reaction as positive and negative stokes according to the effects they create. When I meet my buddy and smile it is a positive stroke. When I get am email from my relative I respond . Another example for the same.. Wherever there is no response for the stimuli it is received with a negative effect. When positive stroke enriches our life negative ones act venomous so spoil our relationship resulting in a stressful one. Life is one time affair and we can not say in this life we experiment and learn and live a good life in our next life. What is in store in our life we don’t know. How life has played fairly or unfairly in other life we are not aware of such things
3 Keep the wave length at equal level.
In the sea shore we can observe the waves how they go t o a peak and come to trough. It shows only the ups and downs of our life. Whether we want or not we have to maintain an optimum level of wave length with others so that we have a good relationship and social life is peaceful without chaos and confusion. We have to make it possible by our behavior with genteel approach and coupled with virtues like truthfulness , frankness, and avoid vices like lies gossip , backbiting and eavesdropping etc.
When we develop a positive image about the other person taking into account his knowledge , experience there would be the optimum wave length and when we give into the prejudice ,etc. it gives room for creating a wrong wave length resulting in quarrel , argument , attack and counter attacks . There should be a perfect understanding and a certain degree of compassion and leniency towards other person. We should not yield to our instincts and impulses but we have to maintain a good quality of mindfulness.
If at all our relationship with others are cordial and friendly we can get the maximum out of them. Strained and stressed one may take the toll to make us weak and reduce our energy resulting In creating negative vibes . These three steps can make a mojo to help us lead a happy , peaceful and successful lie.
In the virtual world also we bear in mind to spread the language of love and wisdom by our every post and reaction.